It is hard to believe you have been gone for 27 years now. I think of you often and when I do I miss you so much. I have your picture on a table near where I sit now next to a picture of Mom. I know how much you loved your grandchildren and I am so happy you got to meet all 4 of my boys. You would be so proud of them now! They are all grown, responsible young men now. Kevin served in the Marine Corps. I know how much you valued your military service and how proud you would have been of him for that.
Dad we have 2 lovely granddaughters now. I know you would be bursting with pride to see your great granddaughters. Now I know how you felt when you spent time with my boys! Being a grandparent is so special.
Your birthday and Father’s Day passed recently and with those days I am always reminded of you and the fun we had. You were so hard to shop for so I always made your favorite chocolate chip cookies for Father’s Day. You loved them because at that time of life Mom wasn’t baking anymore so it was such a treat for you.
Oh and remember Christmas Eve? You and I would go shopping in the city to buy Mom’s Christmas gifts. I would drive and you would direct me. You had a wish list from Mom and we would do a whirlwind tour through Macy’s and then head home. Of course I had the job of wrapping.
Remember when you and Mom took me to visit colleges? I think you had more fun than I did. We traveled all over one weekend checking out so many schools. When you did something it was always big! You were so proud of me when I graduated from college and you would be proud to know that all your grandsons are college graduates and are working in the fields they went to school for.
You made me feel real special on my wedding day. Remember how you borrowed your friends’s Cadillac and drove me around the Green in town to show your only daughter off? You were even willing to wear a pink shirt with your tux to match Mom’s dress. You did that for me! I think I know how you felt that day now that I have watched my boys leave home. One of my favorite pictures of us is dancing at my wedding.
There are so many memories flooding my head right now…clambakes, water skiing, family music time (remember “Mighty Lak a Rose” – we laughed so hard we couldn’t play our instruments), trips to grandma’s house, building snow igloos (like I said, you did everything big), teaching me to drive a stick shift in your friend’s Porche (that was the coolest!), wearing silly hats at dinner, singing Christmas carols and Easter songs (the only time you would sing), the way you would tease me in front of my friends (I was mortified at the time but now know you were doing it in fun and showing your love).
I could go on and on with the memories but will end here. Most importantly I learned so much from you about life. You taught me right from wrong, you taught me how to have fun and be spontaneous, you showed me how to best love my husband by the way you loved Mom, you showed me how to parent by the way you parented us kids, you taught me to believe in myself and showed me a great work ethic.
I saved the best for last Dad. I can still listen to your voice. I have an audio tape that you made with Grampy when you both were researching family history.
I love you so much,
P.S. We are all taking good care of Mom.